As I mentioned in an earlier post, I have a real complex about being authentic. I am someone who wears my emotions on my sleeves. I’m someone who can’t hide the fact that I do not like you. If I am feeling bad about something, I do not want to hear your advice, or your hopeful outlook. To me, trying to be positive when I’m upset is me being fake.
This complex, as are many of the ones that caused my poor mental health, is quite silly, and moves me further away from healing than closer. What I’ve been realizing lately, ia that we can only become a positive person by acting like one.
Our culture loves the idea of being true to your feelings. We are told from a very early age to follow our hearts. We are indoctrinated to the philosophy that we must be 100% ourselves at all times. Anything less is being fake, and if you’re being fake you’re not being you. As if not being you is some capitol offense.
I’m here to tell you, that being 100% myself is disastrous. Authentic Kyle is very rude. He doesn’t like it when the spotlight is not on him. He hates to lose any argument, and feels like if he doesn’t get every single point across he is being cheated. He is very selfish. He jumps to conclusions about other people’s motives before he gives them a chance.
So, I’d prefer to not be 100% Authentic Kyle, thank you very much. I’m much more interested in being 100% Sanctified Kyle.
The Bible tells us “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” (ESV) Our heart does not hold the answers to getting us where we want to be. In fact, the heart does not know what it wants, and as a result will leave us chasing a millions different things, while obtaining very little. The heart often has very little consideration for others, and what they feel and experience.
Instead of listening to our hearts, and following every impulse in an attempt to be heard, we must imitate God and in that find the key to being our best self. How can I be authentic with my nasty feelings, and still imitate God? I can’t.
The simple truth is that while the negative thoughts flooding us might be how our flesh really feels, that does not make them the truth. I believe God knows who I will be on the other side of this life, and He is in the process of revealing Sanctified Kyle every day. He reveals it by giving me opportunities to act like Sanctified Kyle (who is really just acting like Jesus).
Every frustrating encounter with customer service, every hidden fee that financial aid did not cover, and every bad tipper I encounter are all a chance for me to practice becoming Sanctified Kyle. No one achieves any goal without work. If I’m more concerned with letting the 100% Authentic Kyle be heard, I’ll never give Sanctified Kyle a chance to show grace. He won’t ever be realized.
So the next time someone is testing your patience, stop and ask yourself who you want to be today. Do you want to be the version of you that your flesh tells you is “legit”, or would you rather be the real authentic you, which is the one God has called you to be?
God I pray to you today that you would give me patience and compassion for the people who try in me life. I admit that I’ve had a short fuse in the past, and I’ve been more concerned with being right, than I have with being Christ-like. Forgive me for those sins Father, and help me to become the sanctified version of me whom you already know. Amen.